How to Change your Family.

This is the the buying season of the year, remember to support what you believe in with the gifts you buy!
Luckily Asheville as well as the internet is full of ethically crafted clothes, jewelry, tools, and art so it's easy and fun to shop with integrity. Especially the next two weekends.
The thing about this season is we get to pass a little piece of our mindset along to those we love who are often outside this local community. Many of our families don't recycle, they go for quantity of gifts rather than quality, they expect us to eat mystery food and fit into the roles we assume in that family unit.
It makes it difficult to spread enlightenment and encourage positive change coming from the role we were raised in. Calling attention to new developments in one's self can just result in isolation. Remember your first Thanksgiving as a vegetarian? You probably weren't too bothered by the styrofoam plates.Sometimes our families can be the biggest source of opposition when we seek to explore our selves. They keep us in static roles and it's because they love us, are worried about us, want to feel like they know us, are afraid of change and what they don't understand and frankly they don't have the opportunities we do to live in all the same conscious ways.
I wanted to use this post to connect with you on that level- there is an undercurrent of stress that comes from spending time with those people who raised us up to a certain point.

From what I can tell in this world there is only love and fear, two extreme pulls on our human experience. One positive one negative. One light one dark. If you can go to your holidays full of love, that will be the best communication to your family. They can notice your actions- you don't have to point them out. If you behave differently but gracefully in their world on their terms it will ease the resistance they have to learning about your way of life and all the ways this world could change for the better. You don't have to wage a campaign for ethical behavior with anything but your own example and loving interest in understanding them and the changes they are going through. On the other hand, you don't have to take on that old role and zip your lips, you can chose silence instead of agreement on issues you disagree with. Voicing compassion for the victims of violence rather than hatred for the perpetrators could be common ground that all agree on.

What are your family experiences like? Please feel free to comment, I'd love to continue the conversation.


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Love YOU!

Bethany Adams
Bethany Adams


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